About Ryder Eubanks

I'm Ryder Eubanks, and I'm in my early 20s writing about things most people don't figure out until they've wasted decades.

I didn't start helping people because I had everything figured out. I started because I spent years being someone who wanted something big but kept choosing everything that made it impossible. Someone who knew what needed to change but kept negotiating with my own resistance. Someone who was always getting ready to start instead of actually starting.

The shift happened when I finally connected the dots I'd been avoiding: nothing changes if nothing changes. Sounds obvious, right? But I'd spent years treating it like a quote to nod at rather than a principle to live by. I wanted different results while religiously maintaining the same patterns. I wanted to become someone else while refusing to stop being who I was.

What pushed me to actually change wasn't some dramatic rock bottom moment, it was the realization that I could spend the next five years exactly like I'd spent the last five, or I could do something different right now. Not tomorrow. Not when conditions were better. Now.

So I did.

I started taking action on things I'd been postponing for months. I stopped negotiating with my own standards. I treated my resistance as navigation instead of warning. And gradually, I became someone who could help others do the same. That's not because I'd reached some destination, but because I'd learned how to start moving when everything in me wanted to stay still.

The feedback started coming in from people who listened to what i was sharing, because I was showing them how to stop treating their own advice to themselves as optional.

That led to "What You Chose Instead", my bestseller that breaks down exactly how small choices compound into life trajectories, and more importantly, how to start making different choices before it's too late. The book isn't theory. It's the breakdown of every pattern I had to destroy in myself and everything I learned helping others do the same.

I went through hard times. I made mistakes. I wasted time on things that didn't matter while avoiding things that did. But I learned something valuable from all of it. The gap between where you are and where you want to be isn't crossed through perfect conditions or sudden inspiration but through consistent action despite imperfect conditions and absent inspiration.

If you're tired of your own excuses and ready to become someone who actually does what they say they'll do, you're in the right place.

I'm not here to motivate you. I'm here to show you what's possible when you stop waiting for motivation and start moving without it.

— Ryder Eubanks